Friday, February 27, 2009

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

schnitzel & noodle
these are a few of my favorite things

i have a lot of favorite things in this world - like the sun for instance, or flip flops or peppermint tea. good books, good music, good conversation. peace, prayer and inspiration. however, my family is for sure the most favorite of all the things in this wide world.

my husband is kind
my dad is wise
my mom is hilarious
my sister is generous
my brother-in-law is funny
my biggest brother is adventurous
my sister-in-law is patient
my other big brother is brilliant
my other sister-in-law is insightful
all my mccoy in-laws are blessings
and my son is my HEART

atticus has a lot of new little habits lately that are my favorite.
i followed him around this morning trying to capture some of the precious moments.
they slip by much too quickly.
diaper time is definitely a favorite around here

snuggling on pillows, in blankets, laying his head on the couch or the ottoman
or my lap or my shoulder

basketball is, of course, a favorite.
he often picks up the basketball and starts screaming "dada? dada?"
while circling the house in search of darek.

we have a new nap/bedtime routine which includes snuggling on his glidder in the nursery with the lights off. atticus guzzles milk from his sippy cup with loud gulps and gasps. i sing to him. we rock. we roll. he finds my hands and positions my fingers so that he can gently pull his palms across my fingers and tickle his hands. he pulls his hands away giggling, then starts again. he also holds my thumbs and guides my fingers to tickle his tummy. sometimes he'll curl up and pull his feet up so i can tickle the bottom of his feet. he loves it all. it's our favorite.

blocks, toys, trains, cars, balls, puzzles, books,
tupperware, shoes, laundry, keys, remote controls, batteries,
cupcake tins, magnets, paper, CDs, keyboards, cheese,
anything else he can get his hands on

biting, chewing, sucking, eating, drinking, licking, kissing
and the smacking of lips when he's waiting for something to eat or drink

at least once a day we put music on and have dance parties in the kitchen
lately atticus asks to be held when the music is on and he rests his head on my shoulder
we slow dance around the kitchen
it's magical
it's my favorite
i hope your life is filled with all your favorites!

Monday, February 23, 2009

today's free therapy

So let’s pretend like you’re a therapist. Your client comes in week after week complaining of the same problem, the same failed efforts and the same resulting frustration. You listen to your client’s rendition again and again wondering why he continually falls into the same self-destructive patterns. Finally you take a deep breath, look you’re client in the eye and say:

“Have you tried doing something different?”
pause, confusion “Different?”
“Yeah, you know. If what you’re doing isn’t working maybe you should try doing something different.”

Time stands still.
Heavenly beams shine down upon you.
Angelic voices harmonize in the background.

What a concept! This is a for real honest to goodness therapeutic technique. If what you’re doing isn’t working, then try something different! I know, I know. Brilliant. This is why they (don’t) pay me the big bucks. Obviously some patterns of behavior are more deeply rooted in psychology so efforts at changing them with shear willpower alone will prove futile. However, other things in our lives, less complicated things, really can change just by doing something different. Routines are good only as long as they are health-promoting, not health preventing. Got it?

For example – I always have big plans all day long to go to the gym after Darek gets home from work. But then this crazy thing happens called getting tired. Unfortunately it happens on a fairly regular basis so it often ends up that I am too beat by the end of the day to get to the gym for a good workout. I do get to the gym occasionally, but it’s time to step it up. Soooooo last night I did something I’ve only done maybe 4 times since atticus was born – I set my alarm! I know. Astounding. And then I had the worst night’s sleep ever and I just kept thinking to myself, “Yeah right! I’m going to be way too tired to get to the gym tomorrow morning.” But I had decided to do something different – just a little experiment to see if it worked. And guess what? I woke up before my dreaded alarm even had a chance to tempt me into touching my finger tips (see previous post to figure out what that’s all about) and before I could talk myself out of it I was out the door and on my way to the gym. And I worked out! Like real live exercise that I think actually made me healthier. Plus I read a great article on yoga philosophy while on the elliptical that nourished my soul as well. That’s called two birds, people! Plus exercising in the morning generally makes me eat healthier and use my time more wisely during the day so I suppose that’s birds number three and four. Anyway, I’m sure I’ll be posting on some of those philosophies soon, don’t you worry.

So that’s it folks! If what you’re doing isn’t working for you, try something different. It may be tough to really establish long term changes because we are all too often creatures of habit that quickly fall back to our old ways. BUT, at least for the one moment, at least for today, I did something different and was successful and that was better than doing the same old less-successful thing! Now it's your turn. Good luck!

Sunday, February 22, 2009

can i get a clean slate here please?

Do you ever just wish you could start life with a clean slate? Like when you were 8 years old playing handball during recess and you could call a do over? I need a do over. Sometimes I think that if I could just get all caught up: laundry done, house spic and span, body healthy, family happy, all well-rested, all obligations met, etc. etc. then I could start from “perfect” and just maintain perfect. Maintaining perfect sounds much easier then achieving perfect. But let’s be honest, perfect shmerfect! Life is happening while we live it. As I’m doing dishes, dinner is cooking in the oven, dirtying up more dishes. As I’m doing laundry the clothes I’m cleaning in are getting unclean. And as I’m folding said laundry, Atticus is rapidly unfolding it. Sometimes I feel like I’m going for a run with a slice of pizza in my hand. You know what I mean? But, I suppose that if I just waited around for my dream clean slate, I’d miss out on life entirely. At least the run feels great and the pizza is tastey!

Did you ever watch Out of This World when you were little? There was this alien girl, I think her name was Evie. She was living a human life with a human family but she had all these special alien powers. Anyway, one of her powers was to freeze time. She could touch her finger tips together and freeze time just before someone fell down or whatever. She’d fix the problem then clap her hands and time would start again and she had saved the day. I can not tell you how many times I wished for this talent growing up. Countless birthday-candle-blowing-out wishes wasted. I mean, how great would it be? I’d fantasize about how my alarm would go off in the morning and with a simple touch of the finger tips I'd snooze the morning away. Or on my way to class I’d just freeze time and spend a few hours cramming for the exam I was about to flunk. I suppose I could have solved these problems by going to bed earlier or not procrastinating, but really, that's not nearly as fun as freezing time alien style.

A friend and I were joking after church today that we don’t want to get pregnant with our next child until we are fully "recovered" from the last one. We want to start at “ground zero,” reclaim the health and wellness of our bodies before putting it through another pregnancy. But let’s be honest, if we all waited for that to happen, there would be a lot of only children running around this wide world.

I do have days where I feel like I’m all caught up and staying sane, but most of the time I’m just fighting to keep my head above water. Even now, as I’m writing this, atticus is eating crackers off the floor and I just discovered my shirt is on backwards. Darek came into Relief Society today to get something from the diaper bag and on his way out he whispered, “There’s spit up dried on your shoulder.” I looked down and low and behold, the cracker Atticus had been eating when he walked head first into the wall two hours earlier was drooled all down my left shoulder. Sweet. Another mom friend of mine observed me as I got a wipe out of my diaper bag and scrubbed away the dried cracker drool. She laughed and told me that she had just cleaned up the spit up that was all the way down her arm. I guess I'm not in this alone.

Darek often tells me to go to bed when I’m puttering around the house tidying up at the end of the day. But it’s the worst to walk into the kitchen to make Atticus breakfast the next morning and last night’s dinner plates start hocking spit wads at me. That happened this morning, but getting ready for church was so hectic that I came home not only to last night’s mess but this morning’s mess. Sheesh kitchen, cut me some slack here. Anyway, I'm sure there are lessons to be learned here. Things like humility and endurance and patience and perserverance...maybe I'll just take a nap. In my experience slates often appear to be just a bit cleaner after a nice long Sunday afternoon nap. You should do the same.


Saturday, February 21, 2009

we went to the museum of fine arts today

and these two were my favorites. both by renior.
though these pictures do not do these stunning pieces justice.
they were stunning in real life.

~ Mixed Flowers in an Earthenware Pot~
i'm only a semi fan of still life and not always an impressionism fan but in this case - beautiful!
~ Dance at Bougival~
this painting is life size and her face is so dreamy.
the movement of the painting is so magical and i love that he is gazing so intently at her
~ lovely ~

Thursday, February 19, 2009

just some tips
to make your life
run more smoothly

don't get up early and rush out the door to a doctor's appointment that is scheduled for MARCH 19th, not february 19th
don't eat cookies for dinner and swear to never eat cookies again only to wake up the next morning and have cookies for breakfast
if you're going to ignore the above stated cookie advice then at least make the cookies with whole grains and coconut oil so that there's at least a touch of rationality behind your irrantionality
if you have no chocolate chips on hand with which to make your chocolate chip cookies but you do happen to have a huge hershey's kiss that you gave your husband for valentine's day, shave it up with a peeler because a knife doesn't work
alright, that about sums it up. have a nice day!

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

it has come to my attention

that some of you blog readers often find yourself reading blogs because you get a bit *ahem* bored at work. you know who you are. you don't have to be ashamed. once upon a time i had a job and more than once upon a time! so to spice up your day just a small bit i'm posting an e-mail of trivia my mom sent my family today. enjoy!

guess which of the following are true and which are false? (Answers are below)
1. Apples, not caffeine, are more efficient at waking you up in the morning.
2. Alfred Hitchcock didn't have a belly button.
3. A pack-a-day smoker will lose approximately 2 teeth every 10 years.
4. People do not get sick from cold weather; it's from being indoors a lot more.
5. When you sneeze, all bodily functions stop, even your heart!
6. Only 7 per cent of the population are lefties.
7. Forty people are sent to the hospital for dog bites every minute.
8. Babies are born without kneecaps. They don't appear until they are 2-6 years old.
9. The average person over 50 will have spent 5 years waiting in lines.
10. The toothbrush was invented in 1498.
11. The average housefly lives for one month.
12. 40,000 Americans are injured by toilets each year.
13. A coat hanger is 44 inches long when straightened.
14. The average computer user blinks 7 times a minute..
15. Your feet are bigger in the afternoon than any other time of day.
16. Most of us have eaten a spider in our sleep.
17. The REAL reason ostriches stick their head in the sand is to search for water.
18. The only two animals that can see behind themselves without turning their heads are the rabbit and the parrot.
19. John Travolta turned down the starring roles in 'An Officer and a Gentleman' and 'Tootsie.'
20. Michael Jackson owns the rights to the South Carolina State Anthem.
21. In most television commercials advertising milk, a mixture of white paint and a little thinner is used in place of the milk.
22. Prince Charles and Prince William NEVER travel on the same airplane, just in case there is a crash.
23. The first Harley Davidson motorcycle built in 1903 used a tomato can for a carburetor.
24. Most hospitals make money by selling the umbilical cords cut from women who give birth. They are used in vein transplant surgery.
25. Humphrey Bogart was related to Princess Diana. They were 7th cousins.
26. If coloring weren't added to Coca-Cola, it would be green..

Now, scroll down for the answers..........................

They are all TRUE
i'm dying over #16
and how could alfred hitchcock not have a belly button? was he not born human?
and speaking about umbilical cords...#24? nasty!

ok, have a great day at work!

Monday, February 16, 2009

valentine's day weekend
mehrsa was in town last weekend for a conference at harvard. lucky for me she needed a blow up mattress to sleep on and a living room to sleep in, so i was happy to provide both. on friday night i got dressed up like a pretend lawyer and snuck into the last few speakers of her conference because one of the speakers is a member of my ward and i wanted to hear her shpill. it was pretty great. after the conference we went and saw He's Just Not That Into You. i had been warned to not get my hopes up but i totally loved it. funny and tender, my fav. mehrs and i just chatted every second we were together. we chatted so much we forgot to take a picture time.

on saturday darek and i took the bug out for valentine's day dinner at bertucci's. have you ever had such delectable rolls? there's nothing yummier. do yourself a favor and run, don't walk.

i made german pancakes for the boys for v-day breakfast. darek ate his, atticus played with his.

atticus received a valentine from gramma dani and papa ted. he carried around the $5 bill all day, mostly crinkling it and trying to eat it. it's now in the "spending" portion of his little tithing/mission/saving etc. piggy bank. did you have one of those when you were a kid? darek saved his and bequeathed it to atticus. such a good daddy.

remember how great it was to make your little valentine shoe box at school that you would set on your desk so that everyone could tuck valentines and treats inside? that was my favorite. when i was a little elementary school midget it was understood that you might bring a measly little valentine and some chalky conversation hearts for all your classmates, but you brought an extra special valentine and a huge hershey's kiss for your most favorite valentine. well, it was shawn fitzgerald in third grade and it was derelique this year. he's my extra special valentine.
darek left a rose with a little valentine on the counter for me to find in the morning. but then as i started looking around i kept finding valentines hidden all over then house, each one with a different message from him and atticus. isn't that so cute? i've only found 25 of the 32 but he said that they were in really random places that i won't find for a while. i love it.

i made homemade valentines for my little valentines

atticus feeling the love

i hope you all had a very lovey dovey valentine's day too!

at least five times a day i...

put my cell phone battery back into the phone after atticus has dropped it
pull atticus away from digging in the trash
cuddle atticus after he's taken a spill
don't answer my phone
wash my hands
wash atticus' hands
clean up spilled food
turn the tv off after atticus has turned it on
stop atticus from unrolling all the TP
change a diaper
give atticus a snack
eat a snack myself
laugh at atticus being silly
tickle attack atticus
change my plans
IM darek
get yelled at by atticus for being on the computer again
wish darek were home to hang out with
wish it were warmer outside
wonder why i'm so tired
clean, clean, clean
check my e-mail
take a picture
say a prayer
feel grateful for my blessings...

Saturday, February 14, 2009

to all you *lovie*loves* out there

Thursday, February 12, 2009

i have nothing to blog about
but why should that stop me from blogging?
poor little blog, so neglected this week. not much has been going on except me being so tired i practically forget to breath! it's been warm enough to go running for the last two days but i could barely squeeze out a walk around the block - much less do anything in the ballpark of running. but(t) i did go to a new class at the gym called gutts & butts and let me tell you, my hip flexors have never been so sore, so running is more like hobbling anyway at this point. darek has been working late - again - even though his busy season is technically over. i'm such a wuss. what do you ladies do whose husbands have crazy long work hours all year round? anyway, he's at a work dinner tonight and i'm just listening to atticus sing from his crib, an hour and forty minutes after bedtime. atticus has been super hilarious lately. his latest favorite game is to sit on my lap and lightly lay the palm of his hand on my fingers until i tickle his hand, at which point he snatches it away and giggles. i giggle too.
so i'm reading FOUR books right now and have a couple more awaiting my attention on my bedside table. i'm not really the kind to read more than one book at a time...i hope this isn't some sad indicator of an ever decreasing attention span. anyway, i'm reading a therapy book to remind myself that i used to actually be a therapist with a real brain, i'm reading a historical novel to remind myself that i really wish i lived in europe, i'm reading the essential shakespeare handbook to remind myself that it's cool to quote shakespeare and i'm reading The Audacity of Hope trying to dig up the audacity to have some hope. i think i set a new year's resolution about reading more classic novels, or something along those lines, so i opened a tale of two cities, and then i closed it, and that was that.
i made another donation drop off to Room to Grow this week from the clothing drive i started a few weeks ago and Room to Grow invited me to come check out their program and asked if i'd like to be part of the contributions committee. cool, right? so i'm thinking about it. mostly i'd just be doing more clothing drives which i'll probably keep doing anyway, so might as well join the committee. it is a super cool program that provides baby clothing, toys, equipment, etc. for the first three years of life along with counseling and support for the parents. i just don't think the social worker in me can resist!
ok - since this is turning into an all random post, i'll share my latest health kick (not the ice cream sandwich that i just ate or the chocolate covered pretzels darek just called and told me he was bringing home from his work dinner. mmm...) i've been reading up on all the health benefits of coconut oil. it's a super healthy fat that does all kinds of things like improve digestion, boost metabolism and create world peace so i thought i'd give it a shot. have any of you tried it? i'm planning on using it in all my cooking and maybe even trying it as a face moisturizer so i can turn back time and be young forever, just like it promises. i'll let you know how that goes.
well, it looks like i've effectively wasted enough time blogging about nothing that the office is starting. gotta love the time suck that is the computer!
ok yes, and here are some fab pics of our power outage fun a few weeks ago.

scary face

happy face


Sunday, February 08, 2009

i downloaded the point and shoot tonight and found some gems of the boys.
dad and son making frowny lips.
atticus is really into eating the bubbles in his bubble bath.
he just leans down and licks them up like a puppy dog.

and i came home the other day and found them like this:
in bed watching nacho libre on the blackberry. oh dear.

hope you all had a nice weekend and enjoyed the "warm" weather!

Saturday, February 07, 2009

you know i'm a fan of aprons!

how cute are these? CHECK HERE if you'd like to support this stay at home mom who makes these cute aprons for missionaries. she is saving up to pay for her son's missions. such a great idea, right? do you know any missionaries? get a personalized apron for them with their name and mission. they are lightweight and easy to tuck away in a suitcase. i would have loved one of these when i was a missionary!

Thursday, February 05, 2009

today's project

a while ago i started organizing baby clothing/toys/equipment drives for a program called Room to Grow that helps chilldren born into poverty. it is a great program and since i'm part of JP Moms i have access to lots of moms willing to donate things they don't need anymore. i haven't done a drive since the end of summer and the other day a mom e-mailed me to see if i happen to be taking things right now so i decided to do a drive. i've gotten so so many donations. this is the stack that is sitting on my loveseat ready for delivery. my car is also full and i have three more pick ups today and two more moms i'm waiting to hear back from. that's a lot of generosity! darek's company pays their employees to do ten hours of community service per quarter so he is home today to help me with the clothing drive.
atticus loves it when i do these drives because he gets to play with all of the toys that collect in our house awaiting delivery to the program. this morning he is particularly smitten by this bouncy seat with all it's bells and whistles.
even though it's a little tight.

anyway, if you are in the area and would like to donate please contact me or check out their website here to arrange for a drop off. they also have a new york office to you new yorkers, check it out!


Wednesday, February 04, 2009

may you stay forever young
of all the superbowl commercials
this was my favorite
now watch it again and listen to all the words
love it

Tuesday, February 03, 2009

i keep getting tagged

in facebook to share 25 random thing about myself. i just haven't gotten around to it but i did recently come across a list of 25 things i want to accomplish in my life so i suppose that will do for now. here goes...

1. have children
2. serve lots of missions with darek
3. be a temple worker
4. get a PhD
5. teach at a university
6. write and publish a book
7. travel to as many countries as possible
8. live overseas
9. do the church history tour (check! did this in 2005)
10. run more marathons and qualify for boston
11. do humanitarian work in another country
12. relearn spanish
13. adopt a child from another country (and this was before the brangelina craze!)
14. do personal and family history
15. own and decorate my dream home
16. do something in interior design/visual merchandising
17. use my social work degree to promote adoption instead of abortion
18. learn everything i can about other people, cultures, country, religions, history, etc.
19. learn to play the hymns on the piano
20. improve my photography
21. teach aerobics classes
22. meet the prophet
23. play on a soccer team (so random, have never played soccer in my life!)
24. become a gospel scholar (not sure how to measure that one)
25. get back into acting, just for fun

looks like i've got a lot of work to do!

Monday, February 02, 2009

"i love today"

that's what i thought after shedding my hat, coat and gloves this morning while i ran around jamaica pond. it's beautiful today and my buff stroller totally handled all the slush and mud like the gold medal champion that he is. the weatherman told me it was 45 degrees today but i would have believed him if he had said 65. it's funny to consider that in the fall when the weather dips to 65 we think "ooo, it's crisp and cool, i better put on a sweatshirt!" early in the winter season we're cool at 65, cold at 55, freezing at 45 and FROZEN at 35, not to mention all that happens below freezing. then as the winter progresses our brain slowly loses power and we find ourselves mumbling crazy things like "oh good, it's going to be 32 degrees today! i can leave the face mask at home!" and "well it wasn't too windy today so it didn't feel like 27 degrees!" and "'s only 8 degrees, maybe i shouldn't go running" but you're still considering it. today i found myself wishing i hadn't applied my SPF face lotion this morning wondering if i could actually get a little tan on my pasty self. i'm sure i was taking it a little too far but it can't hurt to dream, right? so now we're home for lunch and muffin baking time but will be out and about again as soon as the bug naps. i love today, and i hope you do too.
in other news, i'm working on a secret project...a new blog! shhhh! it's a secret. it's going to be less of my "this is what's going on in my life and how much i worship my child" ramblings and more of my "i've got a soap box and i'm going to use it" ramblings. but don't fear i have friendly soap boxes. the blog is based on practicing wellness and will have information, thoughts and ideas on how to improve your physical, mental and spiritual wellness. like a little daily dosage from your very own online therapist! what do you think about that? i'll let you know when it's up and running and hopefully it will be something you'd be interested in checking out. in the meantime i'd love any suggestions, input or feedback you'd like to give! thanks folks!
here's to sunny days, sweet muffins and secret projects!

Sunday, February 01, 2009

it's going to be 45 degrees tomorrow!

wanna go to the beach?